Let me start with an introduction to what a stranger - foreigner is to me and that is why I will take you into my inner world and tell a little about the Archetypes and mythology. Let's take a look at the starry sky. Forty-five years ago I moved to France, ever since I felt like an alien, a social outcast.
Why do I feel like an outcast?

Of course, a new homeland, with its new rules and rituals, is difficult, but becoming part and integrating also creates this indefinable fabric that has allowed me to overcome my fears, especially those of “do I exist”.

How does that work ?

I, the foreigner, had my demands, I was determined to learn and have integrity. I searched for inner truth and recognition of myself. Changing countries, this move, in which I open doors within myself, taught me a lot. Sometimes this attitude dispossessed me of myself and got me into trouble. Crossing boundaries and fears was intended to wake me up, to seek recognition in and around myself. Asking questions and doubting myself, my actions, made me work on my victim behavior and helped me to overcome it. It brought me tolerance and acceptance of the others and made it possible to accept the structure, culture and country by merging my intuition and inner nature with the demands of this new culture. That's how I found my place. Finally I understood "I am not the environment but a territory among other territories".

Your family in which you are born, creating your own family or choosing a family, the principles of recognition and security are the same. With them come other questions. If family has rules - a law - written or unwritten, habits and customs, the family also judges. It is difficult to admit new members into your family. Here we find the dichotomy, the uncertainty and the willingness to accept the newcomer and not be undermined by it.To make you understand the foreigner and the diversity I bring you  into mythology, because we need a little symbolism to have a broader view, let's raise our eyes towards the  sky.
So let me introduce Saturn and Chiron, two figures from Greco-Roman mythology. And each motivates a specific aspect of human nature which intervenes in the appreciation of the other and thus in the appreciation of the stranger.

One Saturn is characterised by its capacity to build, to achieve, to structure. The other Chiron is characterised by self-improvement, the ability to accept one's difference.
Saturn is the 6th planet from the sun, it is the planet which has rings around it. It completes its orbit around the sun in approximately 29 years. Saturn or Kronos is a Greek god. He is the son of Gaia and Ouranos, Gaia is the original earth, Ouranos the sky. It is at the marriage of heaven and the original earth which gives birth to the earth and to humans. To preserve him from his father Ouranos, Maïa the earth absorbs him into her bowels, symbolising the limit, in particular that of the human in his earthly body. He is represented with a scythe in his hand to indicate that he presides over time. Also the time of life and death...
Saturn is at the overlap - winter solstice - of old time and the new which grants it mastery of time because its birth creates day and night, the seasons. The limitation of time and space created by Saturn also creates community. Everyone needs to situate themselves in the time and space of the community in order to guarantee the survival of the species. Saturn establishes habits and customs. In this way he represents the metaphor of rituals. The habits and customs that are created become the reference context of the group and of belonging. Respect for rituals allows this belonging.
Saturn's journey around the sun takes place in approximately 29 years, the age when humans reach maturity, the age when awareness arrives and a definition of the choices that must be made to have their personal place in the middle of the group.

“What is my purpose in life? What do I want to become? How do I want to exist? What is important to me? ".

Priorities are set, the understanding that the construction is done and that it is time to expose yourself to the world and show yourself.
It is very difficult to realise that the structure, the habits and customs, the rituals which aim to protect and preserve oneself do not necessarily open up to personal choices which allow evolution. Why ? Humans, you, me, are faced with fear. The fear of confusion, the fear of unknowning, especially the fear of not being part of the community and of not being recognised or respected. The beauty of a facade of a house which fits into the environment says nothing about the interior of your own choices. There is the facade that creates the link, but personal choices must take their place. This facade we call the mask in psychology or “the persona.”

Chiron is a planetoid that has a 50-year eclipse in the sky. In its path it links Uranus, symbol of timelessness, and Saturn because unlike most other stars, its path is not circular but an ellipse. This spatial vision is taken up in mythology, its celestial path links the temporary to the timeless.
In mythology Chiron is a centaur, son of Saturn and a nymph, he is the result of a deception, that of Saturn who deceives his wife Rhea, which means that Chiron is born a horse-man and also the son of gods and immortal. The infidelity of the gods is a recurring theme. The father's deception can be associated with the abandonment of the vow to the wife or his commitment to her. He does not want to bear the responsibility for his infidelity, he flees it by becoming a horse. The metamorphosis of Saturn gives birth to Chiron as a centaur. So much for the veiled side of Saturn and its relationship with Chiron. Here we have a generational conflict between father and son.

Chiron feels humiliated, victim and hurt by his father's rejection and his mother's abandonment, unloved and victim of the situation. This first leads him to feel sorry for himself and to feel a deep feeling of injustice which awakens a feeling of rage, of wanting to chase away the one who chased him, hurt him and excluded him. Centaurs are cruel, crude and frustrated beings and their animal nature is untamed. Chiron's instincts are therefore deeply present, predominant and difficult to control. Abandoned by his father and mother, he grew up in a cellar and made his way out of this confined and hidden space with the help of Apollo. The latter takes charge of his education and initiates him into the art of healing, music, divination and hunting until Chiron manages to master his animal nature and his vile feelings and he understands men. It is on this path that he learns about healing. through the contribution of nature. He apprehends exterior nature through plants and elixirs and interior nature in a perpetual desire to connect the indomitable animal to human instinct. The symbolic work on its base feelings, takes on its full expression here. He becomes the tutor of many mythical heroes because his learning makes him virtuous and wise. Inadvertently, Chiron is injured by his friend Hercules, who in a hunt confuses him with the other centaurs and wounds him with an incurable poison. The search for a cure advances even further the knowledge of healing. But here no remedy can intervene. Tired of the fight against the incurable, he cedes his immortality to Prometheus and chooses death as the solution to unbearable pain. He accepts the vision of time.
As with the adolescent, it is necessary for him to go beyond the stage where he defines himself in opposition to the other. This begs the question “Who am I?” . He is the bearer of a birth trauma, of what we called “original sin” and perceives it with a “Why Me?”. It is this pain that he feels even though he did not create it, which is expressed in "It's not my fault" Since his departure in life, this inspires him to a search for meaning and of justice and leads him towards an inner justice which makes him resilient and understanding of others. He knows that he is not god, nor human, nor animal, he is all three, he must learn not to feel "the excluded" and he is a traveler of the three worlds and this faculty leads him to a different vision and perspective from others. The key to the story of Chiron is therefore not in the wound inflicted on him by Hercules; because the initial trauma is exclusion.

Chiron accepts death as the outcome and dissolution of incurable pain and through this he integrates the deep human dimension: the body is not eternal. Its journey is the decomposition .

Now, everyone is not an outcast, a foreigner, since they choose a family they belong to, a family of the heart in a world where the heart no longer has meaning. To be able to choose it I recognised, consciously or unconsciously, that the other “families” that of flesh and blood, or of choice - in work - do not fully respond to the rules and rituals inscribed in me.
The family and the stranger each have a function. The family brings structure and protection to the new, the stranger brings questioning.
I took a vow to respect the fundamental rule, commitment. But I am a traveler outside of time and social deaths are my daily life. This confronts me with questions: 'How am I different from others? How do their rules condition me? Did I understand the rule, the daily ritual? What is the meaning of this ritual? What is its form? How can I be myself and with them? ' And I ask these questions to others.

We all need the foreign, because it brings us to our strangeness. “Let’s stop judging! ". If the law arises through judgment, are we not more than the law? The law can become rigid and dogmatic because it protects, but shouldn't we go beyond it ? in order to achieve ourself ? achieve and integrate the rule? to transform, to enrich? Let us open our hearts and travel so that others confront us with our own strangeness.
This work broadened my vision of time and space. I am feeling and emotions, without denying my origins or my new family with its structure because it also works to integrate me, the other, the stranger.
And since we are always another for the other, a stranger as we are for ourselves, it is a constant work.